Elderly Parental Obligations

   My father hasn't been able to stand since he fell Saturday (9-1-2012). My little brother had left me this following message..
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My Brother:

'Okay, dad had a fall by the bathroom and I had to help him back into his chair. His right big toe has an injury on it, and his right leg was colder than the room and swollen. '

Me:

'How's he going to the bathroom . Why didn't you tell me he can't get into the bathroom now?'

 My Brother:

I thought that was just yesterday he wasn't able, and that he could once he rested up. I didn't know he couldn't today until he said something to you over the phone.


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I can't make him go to a doctor against his will either. I know what you're thinking. I tricked him the last time to get him to go. But at least he could get back into his chair with some effort on my little brothers. 



But the most irritating thing to know is that since he went back to his own home he's gain about 70lbs..... He lost weight while staying at mine.....

4-5- stores and nearly 3-4 hours later I find the VERY LAST beside potty (I swear in the state of Utah cause it a holiday weekend) and finally got it to his house and my brother & i set it up for him. He stubbed his toe during his fall and now my brother needs to keep an eye on his diabetic feet.

But now my brother can't even get him on the toilet next to him because all of a sudden pop can't even stand to pivot to the toilet. 

Today I get a call that he was trying to get him on the pot and he ended up on the floor and he can't get him off the floor. I said "I can't pick him up. Call an ambulance." Which he was glad to hear it cause he wanted to call one. My dad isn't exactly light. He well over 300lbs. And last time he got on a scale it was 322lbs. Four firemen got him into his chair. Told me about a rash I had no idea he had (I refuse to look at my own father naked) on his crotch. and said he needed some DESITIN®. Which I took my little brother up to get some. I drove him back and went back to my own home. I don't know what to do anymore. Pop was refusing help for seniors when I had him. Now my brother has no choice but to call and get help from them whether or not pop likes it.

I am so tired of being a caregiver and having my brother help seems to add more stress cause he calls me for every little thing.  I almost dread answering the phone or getting on FB. When I took care of my grandparents, no one helped me with all this stuff. Not my dad. Happily the doctors set up care for them and my grandfather did. But they weren't refusing all the time.

No wonder between work and my parents causing me stress that I can't keep my thyroid in check.

"Is Brother There?"

          So my other half gets a phone call on his phone in the middle of the night. It was late and his sister so I answered it.

"Is brother there?" she asked slurring so heavily I almost didn't understand her.
"Yeah but they're all sleeping." I stated
"Who's this?" She asked still slurring heavily.
I said my name.
"What's brother doing there?' She asked baffled.
"He lives here." I stated. thinking it's going to be one of "THOSE" conversation with a drunk.
"Ra--'s always lived here." I said.
"I'm calling for brother." She slurred almost unintelligibly.
Then it clicked. She calls her eldest son "brother".
"He's not here." I said
"OH! I must have dialed the wrong number...." She said
"Yeah. This is Ray's phone." I said trying not to laugh.
"OK. I LOVE YOU!" She said letting me know she's totally bombed. She never tells me she loves me.
"I love you too.." I said "BYE." and I hung up.

The next morning  I was due to help her with her online unemployment & job search. No she can't do it alone... I text her 'I'm up when you're up' pretty sure it would be a while after the late night phone call.
She text back "Sorry. Text me when you're up." Amused at this I text back 'LOL I text you a half hour ago that I was up. Are you?'. She text back 'Yes lol sorry I will be there i need a cup of coffee to sober up ad I will be there thanks'.......

And the saga continues......

Setting Them Up to Fail

The maintenance manager. 

Nice guy. Maybe that was the problem. I don't know. 

About 3-4 weeks ago I told him it felt like they were setting him up to fail. He admitted it felt that way too.
Well, apparently, they were. They fired him last Thursday. I found out today.

The production manager wanted him gone. He was making comments about how he might just have to put on another hat. He was plotting to get rid of him. I heard him myself talking to a production lead saying as much. I don't know for sure, but I'd almost bet cause he thought his buddy, another maintenance man who's been there for years, should have had it.  What do you want to bet that he gets it next.... Or, like the production manager said "I might just have to put on another hat." He said the same thing about my bosses job too that day. 
Of course my boss said he's just as horrible about the President of the company and says he can do a better job than he is.

When it's you time...

When it's your time to die,
It doesn't mean you can't go kicking and screaming the whole way!

Politics & Family

So my brother is annoyingly political..

So this morning he commented on Hurricane Issac and the fact that it was interfering with the GOP..  

Things are getting postponed basically.

He made a comment on this site posting the information that he wanted someone to make him a sign for it.

So I did him one better....

I made him a picture.....

 

Presidential Tornado 2012

Credits - That's the Red Cross tornado, Barack Obama, Mitt Romney, The Wicked Witch of the West & and a flying monkey...

Why the Red Cross Tornado? Because after all this shit, we're all gonna need a little Red Cross Lovein'!

Park a little closer!

So my other half was taking my dad to the doctor. 
He traded my truck for his. 
I asked him to park it in the same spot mine was in. He didn't. He put it in the parking spot next to it that is supposed to be the the company's box truck. Like he would know that, but he did. 
So I come out to leave and fine that the other company that rents a space from ours, and borrows our truck every so often parked the box truck two inches from my mirror and about 6-8 inches from the enter side of my truck. I got out, but it pist me off. 
So I grabbed my boss  in the morning and started to explains and he cut me off "you hit the truck" I said "NO! But any one else might not have been so lucky." And that's very true. 
Had that guy caused me to hit the company truck, you can bet that I would be pressing charges.suing... Something. Beside, what a fucking asshole. There were other places to park the Box Truck.

Nicotine Fit?

I went out to break yesterday and saw that once again someone parked in the smoking area...

A picture's worth a thousand words....